Good morning DREAMERS……..I know that this post has nothing to do with DREAMS, but I thought it was a great piece that I wrote and was inspire with…..and I wanted to share it with you. As, relationships are an important part of our development. Hope that you enjoy. ~Blessings Flow
Relationship Maturity
All relationships require work. Rather it is marriage, friendship, dating, or even a work relationship; in order for it to work you must put in the time required for the relationship. I understand that there has to be two willing parties that are willing to do what is necessary to continue any relationship if that’s what they want. As I was ironing my clothes this morning, I had an epiphany; relationships not only work because the lack of effort that people put into them, neglect, or because people grow apart. But the main reason most or some relationships don’t work is because people mature, but the relationship isn’t given the chance or time to mature.
Maturity: perfected condition; full development; fully developed in mind and body.
Think about it; say you’ve had this friend since college. You two were close and shared just about everything with each other….rather bad, good, or indifferent. As you’ve completed college and you are now in the work force, things begin to change in your life…..you begin to mature. You are now a working adult with responsibilities; you must now prioritize what is important. This is all new to you, I’m sure. Let’s add in a relationship, or better yet let’s had in a spouse and family. You have now become the working adult with a family. Your priorities are now way different then when they were in college. You are not just responsible for yourself now, but a career to balance along with a family. Your whole way of thinking, living, being has now matured. You can’t hang out like you use to; you have to now spend time with family; prepare dinner; help with homework…just to name a few. You have now determined that there are more important things in life that hanging out all night with friends, partying, and just being plain ole irresponsible………that was your life and way of thinking in college.
So now, back to those friendships and relationships that are on the back burner because you have to take care of what is important first. That is quite understandable. Realize that the time and effort you would have put into this relationship back in college, is now shifted to something else; therefore this friendship/relationship has now become somewhat neglected. You must understand that there must be a shift in the relationship in order for the relationship to mature with you as well. If it doesn’t, the relationship will fall to pieces, and ultimately it will be over. Now, you have a matured mind, trying to be a part of an immature relationship, and it won’t work. I know that sometimes it’s hard and you can’t dedicate time to relationships like you use to; but if you want your relationship to grow you must find the time to nurture it. A matured mind, with an immature relationship is detrimental for you and others involved because you won’t see eye to eye, there will be lots of indifferences, you won’t be on the same page….plain and simple the relationship just won’t fit. You can’t pull old into the new, without the old being renewed. That immature relationship, won’t work within your matured life. If this relationship is one that you desire and want to work, two willing parties must find the shift, and work toward building a renewed relationship based on current life circumstances.
I know, I get….there are just some relationships that are detrimental and are not good for you anymore. Those are what I call toxic relationships and those should end. Those relationships were meant for a season, and when that time has passed, it is time to move on.
God wants each of us to have healthy relationships. Therefore, take the time to decide what relationships are worth saving/having and work towards that.
~Sharay Mungin
~Blessings Flow