Depending

I was having a conversation with my mom the other day, and I had a great revelation. We were talking about forgiveness and the time it takes to overcome this battle. Forgiveness is hard; a lesson that is certainly learned and not taught. Its one of those things that you certainly need the help of God with. She was telling me how she comes to terms with forgiveness; she said, when someone hurts me or does something to me that I don’t like, I go to God in prayer and say Lord, I forgive them in Jesus name. She said in Christ she knows that she can do anything, but we all know the flesh is stubborn and weak.

When you are dealing with unforgiveness, you are in pending status.

Pending is defined as awaiting a decision or settlement; waiting on something to happen or take place; not yet decided; until a decision is made.

When something is pending, its reliance is on something else. You may be waiting on something to clear up. In this instance, it could be your feelings of hurt or disappointment; it could be your feelings of doubt, worry or even anxiety. When you are in pending status, you are relying on self, however, self will never give you what you need to come to a final or even the right decision. In pending, you are choosing to relive the hurt and wallow in the pain. In pending you chose anger and even hate. Whatever decision you come to regarding self, it will either be detrimental or destructive in the long run. In pending, you must either choose to pend on self, or depend on God.

Depend is defined as to be controlled or determined by; to rely on support of; to be condition or contingent upon.

When you take your hurt, unforgiveness, pain, worry and frustration to God, you are depending on Him to help you through the rough patch of your pain. You are ultimately saying God I’m going to need your help in this; you’re saying Lord, without you I am not going to make the right decision if you don’t help me. Depending on God always points our heart in the right direction. God always realigns us to where we need to be, and where He wants us to go. Depending on God is saying, they don’t deserve my forgiveness, but because I know I too need forgiveness, I will forgive them in Jesus name. In the pending status, Christ is waiting on you and me to make the decision to pend, or depend. However, when you choose to depend, you are giving the control to Him to deal with your heart in His time. In our depending status, you allow God to purge you out of the pain and push you into forgiveness. You are allowing God to control the outcome; allowing Him to condition you. I pray that as you face difficult situations in your life, that you reminded to not pend on self, but to depend on God. Let Him usher you, let Him hold your hand into the way you should go. Trust me, the process of depending holds a beautiful outcome. You get to see the understanding, the compassion, and the heart of Christ. That beautiful blessings now belongs to you!

I pray this bless you, as much as it blessed me!

I love you, Blessings flow

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